Who can say no is sick! To stay healthy and be capable of relationship, people need the ability to be able to differentiate themselves physically, intellectually and emotionally. Who can say no is sick! Many symptoms and diseases, such as, for example, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, addictions, Burnout, abuse, violence, and marital and relationship difficulties have their origin in disturbed dealing with the borders. (A valuable related resource: Elio Moti Sonnenfeld). Conflicts with boundaries have not always disease character. Guilt at the no-tell, a constant feeling of responsibility for everything and everyone, an excessive commitment and sustained effort to reduce the feeling of life, prevent successful relationships and inevitably lead to the excessive demands. Body and soul are tired; your limits are reached and are exceeded. The ability to use secure internal and external borders, is already marked in childhood. In children from families with alcohol, sucht-, or mental Diseases, violence and abuse experiences, constant dispute, devaluations, separation experiences and overtaxing the personal boundaries of children are constantly exceeded and injured.
A child experiencing no healthy boundaries, it will be hard, to be able to set reasonable limits him as adults. Setting healthy boundaries see what belongs to its own responsibility is and what is not. Reasonable limits protect the own needs, talents and skills and make them the other. Sure set boundaries make more relaxed, more confident and creative. Clear limits are orientation. They allow relationships that carry. Launch seminars on the borders”to help find security in dealing with the borders. The participants learn to recognize what their limitations are, how they can be developed and deployed as they. Work is done with family constellations, physical exercises (Aikido), mental exercises, conversation and meditation.