In the second case, the child takes the blame for the situation on himself, getting used to self-deprecation. If you have read about Harvard already – you may have come to the same conclusion. This leads to the formation of low self-esteem and, consequently, to a low level of claims, maintenance of social activity, a habit to be in a situation of failure. In other words, the child would experience the joy of discovery, but received negative emotions. The child seems to be saying to himself: "Next time I will not climb and help. Will again blame.
" He folds the handle and quiet. Such behavior of parents, in turn, may regarded as very positive, for example, as a manifestation of good behavior. Endocrinologist is likely to agree. If a passive, inactive position the child earns praise, then this behavior quickly entrenched. The child may be in some Similarity of "cocoon", woven from the prohibitions and restrictions, but the inside lined with soft perinkoy of praise and acceptance. And then imagine what would happen if you sit inside a cocoon, he likes it. On the one hand, he will be Security and under full control, and that's good.
And that's really bad that a child growing up, will subconsciously avoid anything that is outside of the cocoon, in the area of risk and unpredictability. A foreign area and are just all the delights of life. It's love, acceptance, friendship, personal and professional growth, material prosperity and everything that gives meaning of human life. But to achieve all this, to disregard the cocoon and jump into the abyss of the dangers inherent in the external environment.